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So this is just a verbal run down of why I rebranded, refreshed and just the general purpose of who "Beaute and Her Blog" is. Enjoy and comment… First and Informal… More to come!!! Love ya!
The Pill, the oven, the beard and the socially unequal and under appreciated woman. One would think that women have grown leaps and bounds from the ever so oppressive 1950's but I see it quite differently. In 2015 there is just a provocative and superficial spin on what a woman is. Back in the "Fertile 50's" woman had specific gender roles and expectations to settle and feel privileged to be offered a lifetime of birthing rituals and conservative coin purses full of pink lipstick and powder blush. Women were betrothed at 19 pregnant by 20 and on their 4th offspring by 24. American Dream is what they called it. Plastering modelesque visuals of "man the hunter" and "woman the womb" over every cereal box and insurance commercial. Women had no voice, unequal pay and their goal in life was to be pretty and appealing to whatever Ken they could catch. Fast forward 65 years later and woman are still political prostitutes and pawns of free enterprise. Women of the Millennial are loud but not effective. Actions of elevation are taken but obstacles are set in place so that holistic progress can not take place.
Frankly, I am just sick of overly injected, lipo induced, skin peeling procedure addicted females who have been brain washed by a predominately male driven media. Our bodies are being visually and graphically excavated by viewers around the globe. No one is satisfied with what they've been given but infatuated with what the availability of change, no matter the sacrifice. The do's and dont's of what a "woman" should be or do is as slinky as the shoe string bikinis we pose in for the gram. We now live in a time where conservatism equals lesbianism and standards and morals are mistaken for being uncouth feminisms. What has changed? The voice is louder and a bit more seductive BUT STILL INEFFECTIVE! Lets change what our children are seeing now. At the rate we are going there will be no rules or regulations. NO age limits for anything. Everything will be legalized and this will cause nothing but anarchy. Freedom is not the current tool of social independence but a lifestyle of healthy decisions that affect change and growth for the good of all people. Change the view point of all verbs nouns of all things woman! Sexy is Strong. Sexy is Beautiful. Sexy is having Integrity. Sexy is a High Moral Standard. Sexy is You!
BE YOU BOO BOO!
I wrote this next post about 2 years ago at a very futile and sensitive time in my life. As I read this I became extremely emotional and drawn to the raw spirit and truth of emotion. I miss being this transparent. So close to God that it hurt to feel separated or that I was displeasing in anyway. I was hurt, but unharmed and needed to be healed. Instead i ran away due to fear and feelings of unworthiness. As I begin to heal and deal with my truth this reflection allowed me to get back in touch with my "spirit man".
So, recentlyI was in a season where I literally had to push myself into praise, prayer and even in His presence. Situations occurred where feelings of hopelessness, doubt, confusion, and depression tried to creep in. Although I knew to turn to the word and trust God, my emotions warred with my spirit tremendously. So consumed with my present state and what things "looked like", I lost sight of who is in control. Normally, I'm upbeat and friendly but I began to sulk, sleep, eat and repeat. I began to loose sight of Gods promises and the words that he had spoken about me and to me. It was so bad that those who knew me began to worry about my mental/emotional health. BUT GOD. Sitting in service one Sunday, my pastor called me out and only spoke two simple words to me " NOT YET". I immediately broke into tears. Not tears of sorrow, but tears of release and relief. These were tears of worship and gratitude. It reminded me that God kept me in the midst of my situation (Psalm 121:5) Through my journey my prayer was that His will be done. It is important to remember that when praying this prayer, His will may not always feel good or be easy. (Isaiah 55:8-9) While in my natural state I was deeply hurt, it was God who decided that because He loves me and has prepared a better way, that this was not to be so. I had read all the scriptures, spoke in holy tongues, sought out wisdom and guidance from elders in the church but it wasn't until I was completely vulnerable and open to hear him did I get the revelation.I realize now that through this process God kept me in such a place of vulnerability so that I can willingly put Him back in his rightful position, FIRST. After service I went home and had much needed worship/soaking time with God. I put on instrumental worship music and laid before him for hours. It was in that moment where He began to restore that peace, joy, and strength that I had lost. I truly felt that He had wrapped his arms around me. There were more tears, more songs followed my more tears. The Holy Spirit came in with such authority and I was reminded that I AM the RIGHTEOUSNESS of GOD. He reminded me that there is nothing missing, nothing lacking, nothing broken in my life. "Not Yet" doesn't mean not ever but in its appropriate time. It was a call for divine order in my life. I needed to re-position myself in His kingdom. That day i declared that no longer would i think on the things of the past but i would stand on his word and declare that as long as He is that I am. I believe that and have walked in it thenceforth Not without struggle but I am completely convinced that there is truly no other way.
As I close, its moments like these where I fall in love with God all over again. Not for what he has done but just because he is able to do it! Even in the midst of our sins, short comings, and "isms" he says yet and still I love you. I hope that this brief testament helped you or a friend. Sometimes we all need a reminder.
There comes a point in life where being ok isn't enough. When mediocre jobs with mediocre pay will be completely insufficient. Comfortable relationships will be repellingly unacceptable. And lastly but most importantly the emptiness within , the unfulfilled ego and genuinely the person we were created to be, falls by the waist side. Life is waaayyyy to short to be content and full of too many options to rigid. Problem identified! Always the first step in self improvement but the steps that follow are the hardest to complete. There are key questions one must ask themselves to get started.
While these questions seem surface and a bit dated, this is the very start to fearlessly free life.
Who am I, is not the easiest question to answer. When answering this question, close your eyes and visualize who, what, where you would be if money, life obligations, and "NO" wasn't an option. Closing your eyes is important, because this decreases the amount of distractions to extract our purest notions. Who am I and what part of my life is being held back bc Im not walking in this.
What makes me happy? The popular question is; "What could you see yourself doing for free, everyday of your life"?. What do you daydream about while on your 9-5. What sort of hobbies excite you? these are the keys to answering this question.
Who/What impedes my happiness. Who or what in your life hinders you from the very best you? Who or what things, people, places are not of good character, or positive influence in your environment. What are you opening your self up too? We are receptors, we absorb what we surround ourselves with. So checkout the tone of your conversation, and if it doesn't match your destiny , LEAVE! Getting rid of the things that don't belong allow you to see you plainly. without diversion and distraction. It leaves room to answer this question which is definitely a journey, What will make me the happiest? What can/ will I do to live MY best life? Thats just it love! Just live, live through your fears, f' ups' and freedom! Forgive yourself and Love yourself through the journey to a better you. YOU are held accountable for you and you ONLY! If someone doesn't fit, remove them. If you want to fly a plane , take the class! If you want to travel for a leaving invest the time in finding jobs or independent contracts that allow you to do so. If your happiness is have a pietatarre in NYC, MILAN or Montana Do it! Find what inspires you and be consumed with it! Love it and let it love you back!
Its so important to choose you! Choose to be happy. Choose to be healthy. Choose to be free!
Just do it!
“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”